Kate Gosselin Upset, Jon is Bringing Girlfriend to Meet Kids! Is It Too Soon?

Posted on September 11, 2009 by Lolita Carrico

kate gosselin kids play 300x214 Kate Gosselin Upset, Jon is Bringing Girlfriend to Meet Kids! Is It Too Soon?Kate Gosselin was in tears and extremely upset after learning that her soon-to-be-ex-husband, Jon Gosselin, plans to bring his girlfriend to the family home in Pennsylvania to meet their eight children.  According to RadarOnline, Jon gave Kate the word that he’s planning to bring girlfriend Hailey Glassman home to meet the kids very soon.

The news devastated Kate, who told a Pennsylvania friend that she broke down and cried hysterically while talking to Jon.  The FOK (friend of Kate) went on to tell RadarOnline that Kate thinks it’s too soon for the kids to be introduced to their father’s girlfriend, and asked Jon to think of the children before introducing them to a girlfriend so soon.

How Soon is Too Soon to Meet the Children?

There aren’t a lot of guidelines for single parents dating after a divorce. I’ve read a wide variety of opinions from a variety of experts–all of the opinions are different.

Bonus Families® is an organization founded in 1999. The founders, Jann Blackstone-Ford, PsyD. and Sharyl Jupe, are experts and advocates on helping families work through the pain of divorce.  Blackstone-Ford and Jupe say that new relationships after a divorce take time:

The preparation it takes to successfully start a new relationship after divorce, is far more preparation than any other relationship you will ever have.  Sometimes it takes years to lay the proper groundwork before you can safely start a new relationship and make it work.

Parenting expert and author Devra Renner speaks to groups about on to deal with divorce.  Renner makes a wise observation about divorce and the impact on children:

Children do not recover from divorce, they aren’t able to go on to another relationship in quite the same way as adults. In fact, they can’t. Their parents will always be their parents.  Because parents don’t divorce, husbands and wives do. It’s not the parent relationship that is breaking apart, it is the marriage.

What do you think about Jon Gosselin bringing is girlfriend to meet the kids now? Talk to me!

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  • VanM

    I think it is very stupid for him to think that his kids want to meet his girlfriend. They are still trying to process that their mommy and daddy are getting divorced and he wants to bring his girlfriend over. Personally I think he is angry that pretty much everyone thinks he is a dirtbag and this is his way of getting even. He is definately not thinking of how this is going to affect his children, if I was Kate I would talk to the kids and ask them if this is something they would like…and if they don’t want to I would go to my attorney and ask that a judge talk to Jon about maybe taking away his visitation rights until he can think more clearly or he can take the kids to his place for the visit instead of coming to the home where they live with their Mom

  • SRM

    It’s way to soon to have someone else involved with the children as a girlfriend or boyfriend of their parent. Those children are still dealing with divorce and that is so difficult. My ex moved in with someone and was engaged two weeks after he asked for a divorce. My children went through years of hell and are just now starting to recover and they were in their teens and a lot older then the Gosselin children. Jon don’t do this to your children. It’s time to start thinking things threw and to stop reacting to things because you are angry at Kate.

  • Lisa

    This guy, in my opinion, is the lowest of the low. The most selfish of the selfish. Why would he bring his 20-something girlfriend of a few months around to meet his kids? Why would he do that to them? My god, have these kids even had a chance to process what is going on in their family? And now here comes Dad’s new girlfriend. Are he and Kate even legally divorced yet? Horrible. This is the worst thing I’ve heard yet about this situation. I don’t even want to think about the damage this man is going to do to his kids.

  • Dave

    Jon has been making some very bad decions of late, but this is worst of all. He has not shown any concern for his kids at all. He is very selfish, meanspirited, vindictive and hateful. The judge nees to intervene and put a stop to his custody as he is showing he is not considering his kids at all. It is all about getting even with Kate. Not only are the not divorced and this is all new to kids, he wants to rub sailt into their wounds. He must be sick. Futhermore, look sho he is bringing to them. My God, Please have mercy on these kids.

  • Seth

    If the world thought Jon was a dirtbag before, he has just given us more of a reason to despise him and his selfish behavior. Hailey is immature and has no emotional concern for these kids as if she did, she would not go. But he is the adult and the father of these kids and he must be on drugs to even consider doing something like this to them. He is the lowest of all scum. I pray the judge takes his custody away as he is making very poor decisions for himself and dragging his kids into it. Would you want your kids exposed to Hailey? Would you want your kids in the car with him as he drives 83MPH in a 55MPH zone? Judge, do a hair follicle test and psychic eval on him for the sake of kids.

  • singingnewyorker

    I believe neither one of these parents are thinking of their kids. Although it seems too soon to bring the person you’ve fallen in love with, remember that Jon has been living above the garage since last october, almost a year ago. The children feel this just happened but for Kate and Jon they were emotionally and physically separated for a year. They faked their marriage for TLC and money. We may not agree but this is not grounds for losing custody.

  • Deb

    He is an idiot and his girlfriend is a bigger idiot for agreeing to go along with this.

  • christine

    Those kids must really be traumatized having to live their young lives this way. Both their parents care nothing about the kids’ best interests or well-being. If they J & K really cared about their kids, they would cancel the stupid show and keep off TV and out of the media completely. But all J & K care about is money, and I can’t believe that so many people think and speak favorably about J & K and applaud all the crazy stuff J and K do only for more and more money. Apparently no amount of money will ever be enough for J and K.
    So many people have been brainwashed into the J and K web of deceit and lies and bow down to J and K as if J and K are holy.

  • Leslie

    I feel so bad for Kate and the kids. No Kates not perfect but I think she is handling things way better then Jon. Jon only cares about himself!! I NO way should he be introducing the kids to a girlfriend. Especially at 22 year old. (not sure of the exact age. One that parties, drinks, smokes pot ect. The parents aren’t even divorced yet. What is that teaching the kids. There is no reason to introduce the kids to his girlfriend. NONE. Why?? GOSH give them time to deal with a divorce before your showing them you traded mommy in. Really what for the kids going to think of you. HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND!

  • roselyn

    I believe he does it on purpose to lose custody and walk free.

  • sambu

    This is so sad. I really think jon enjoys traumatizing kate. He knows he would be making kate extremely unhappy by bringing home that woman to see the kids. But hailey is just as evil – she should say to jon that it is too early – she is a woman and should think of kate also. I really think hailey really does not care of all the stupid things that jon is doing because she is enjoying receiving all the gold and diamonds he is giving her. She does not care that it is because of kate jon is in the financial position he is in – Hailey has no morals and values so in a sense jon and her suit each other. It is always the kids that suffer in any divorce. Jon has brought home so many women already to the kids home – even before the separation he has brought home that teacher – Hummel or whatever her name is. Jon is out for revenge – and anyone who is enjoying this is as sick as jon. By the way, is Hailey pregnant??

  • Janet

    I often wonder if Jon really loves the kids. Sometimes I wonder if he hates the sextuplets and “what they have done to his life”. Jon claims Kate stole his ring. He obviously left it somewhere when he was out with all of those women and one of them took it. It is my understanding that Jon is extremely stupid once he has a little alcohol in his system. I believe he lost the ring when he was out drinking and carrying with women. Perhaps Hailey took it from him and has sold it. She loves his money and all the jewelry he is giving to her.

  • John

    Jon is on a sucidal path. He keeps doing low things which in turn makes him think very low of himself. From the pictures – I think Hailey is pregnant. She is the one that is urging Jon to take her home to PA. She is pressuring jon to do hateful things to kate.

  • Val

    He just wants to have sex with Hailey in the bed Kate sleeps in. All 8 kids will probably be standing outside the door listening and smelling all the smoke from their all the cigarettes they smoke. The parents of the kids’ friends should not let their kids be aroung Hailey. I know I wouldn’t have wanted my kids around a friends parent who behaved and had a girlfriend or boyfriend like Hailey. Too bad for the Gosselin kids but their friends shouldn’t be exposed to Jon and Hailey and the way they behave.

    • http://buzzGloss sandra

      What’s wrong with everyone? If accusations of Kate’s affair with her body guard has a bit of truth to it ( and I feel it does, by the way she flaunts herself now even more!) Jon has every right to move on, she’s with the kids and bf all the time why cant he have his companion? Kate sickens me to the hilt and always will she’s nomore for the kids then Jon it’s all a show for the money!!

    • Carey

      What good will this do for the kids? Nothing. I think Jon is just trying to hurt Kate at the expense of his children. Kate is still wearing her wedding ring and he’s doing this. I just don’t understand what that will accomplish. His children are going through enough. Jon grow up and try to find a way to make some money for your family. You haven’t worked in years and you whine that Kate was gone all the time. At least she was trying to make money for the family unlike yourself.

  • Amaryllis

    Jon is a total baby, and this is the lowest of the low. Talk about putting your children’s needs last. This man shouldn’t have unsupervised visitation. It’s obvious that his judgment is impaired if he’s willing to introduce his children to his “girlfriend” 3 months after splitting up with their mother. Even years later, most divorced parents are careful about introducing the children to their dates, and don’t do it at all unless the relationship is very serious. To bring a new romantic relationship into the mix when the children are still reeling from the separation news is completely insensitive, shows that Jon lacks maturity, and is incapable of putting anyone else’s needs ahead of his own. No wonder Kate always treated him like a child.

    • Connie

      JON PLEASE DON’T BRING HAILY OR ANY GIRLFRIEND TO MEET YOUR INNOCENT CHILDREN. I WISH THERE WAS A LAW TO STOP PARENTS FROM INTRODUCING ANOTHER PERSON SO SOON AFTER THE DIVORCE. PLEASE SEEK PROFESSIONAL ADVICE ON THIS SUBJECT – PLEASE!

  • Valerie

    I agree with Kate, its to soon for him to even think of dating and taking “his soul mate” to see there kids. I think that he should drop mrs pot head and focus on his kids happiness, since that is wat he said he wants his kids to be happy. Well Jon wat would make our kids happy is 1.dont say u despise there mother. 2.dont say u love ur girlfriend more then u ever did there mother. 3. Your kids dont want to see there dad with some other woman they want to see there mom and dad together so work on your friendship with her drop ur girlfriend and work things out with your soon to be ex wife, theres no need to be together but for the sake of ur kids stop attacking each other and work on a friendship show them that mommy and daddy can be AROUND each other and get alone. And the way to do that is by putting your kids 1st and leaving Haliy alone and focus on there needs. You love your kids right….then prove you love them MORE then Haliy by choosing them over her and call your ex wife be mature and apologize for what has been said and she should apologize to you, then tell her you and her need to work on a friendship for your kids. That Jon will be the Greatest thing you can do. And the best choose you have made since the divorce. If Haliy loves you like she says she does she will wait for you as long as it takes for YOUR KIDS and agree wit the speration FOR YOUR KIDS if she doesnt then that shows you she doesnt care and is only thinking for herself. Your Kids come 1st b4 for anyone even b4 your on needs.

  • Threelittlekittens

    Kate don’t worry Jon will get what is comming to him a very unhappy lonley life. He is making very big mistakes at his childrens expence. As long as you stay grounded and focused on your kids they will be fine because we all know who the better parent is. Good luck Kate, a grandmother of 5 and mother of 3

  • Hailey

    I think Jon is just vengeful. He just wants to show Kate, that He can now go party, he can have a 22 year old, he can bring her home and sleep in the same bed that he slept in with his wife. He can, he can, he can. And, he will rub it in her face too. You can find the old shows where he constantly sighs at her, he constantly huffs and moans, and just always seems annoyed at anything that is asked of him. And, I really think he was just plain pissed that he was Mr. Mom, and she was the successful one of the two. It is too bad that he couldn’t find some good things in any of that situation. The funny thing is that he wants to be the “Man” or the breadwinner. But, he has no ability to do so. Ironic.

    • Bark

      I agree with you. Kate always sensed those huffs & Puffs from Jon and that is why she was nasty to gain control over him. Notice how she always looks at him for approval?

      Will it help that the children are young? I don’t know much about divorce., thankfully.

  • mmc

    I used to be in
    Jons corner, however some of the decisions he’s making are very selfish and immature.These kids are still getting used to their Mom and Dad not being together.To bring someone new into the mix is not for the kids at all.I hate to say it but I think he wants Kate to suffer.Don’t do it Jon, if you must date an immature young woman,do it on your own time. Not on your time with the kids.If your relationship with Hailey or whoever lasts for a year , then introduce her to the kids.Please not now.I know Kate was not always nice to you, but I think you are just being spiteful.Do you love your children?Then do whats right!!!!!

  • jacki

    It is way too soon to bring a new person into the relationship.. jon is thinking with his. uummm.. not his head.. this relationship with haley will not last .. then its onto the next girl…I think he is just trying to get back at Kate..

  • Linda

    Jon reminds me of my ex except that my ex is 100 times worse and more than 20 years older and should know better.

    Here’s what’s going on with Jon. He’s done a lot of stupid things and is trying to make Kate look bad to justify them to himself and everyone else.

    He also is trying to get control of the situation by insisting on pushing his girlfriend into the mix.

    He really needs a time out.

  • Michelle

    There are only bad days ahead for Jon. He may have fun for a while more, but he is going to look back on these days and know that he screwed it up for everyone.

  • Jp

    ARE YOU KIDDING JON ???!!! Soon this show will be Jon and Kate Plus Eight MELTDOWN!! How much of this crap do YOU THINK you could have taken at their young ages ?!? Come on….STOP and THINK !!

    If I were a judge I would certainly give Jon ONLY supervised visitations and give Kate full custody of these impressionable lovely children. Let’s hope to God that there is a rational person going to help with the best possible outcome for all.

    Meanwhile, I plan on not watching TLC trash t.v.

  • Lori S.

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Jon is an idiot.

  • Mike

    Jon rocks.

  • lola

    hhhhwha???? As a mother of three children, I have to say Kate has my sympathies. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has regrets. Jon has turned his back to her and most importantly on his children. If it is true he is considering taking hhis most recent girlfriend over to see those poor children, without Kate’s agreement, shame on him. Not only has he shown himself to unbelievably selfish but this would top it off! Pull it together Jon- Your kids didn’t ask for any of this. Have the decency not to shove your poor decisions in your kids faces. I guarantee you that your most recent girlfriend will leave you soon. When this publicity dies down. And the kids will have another person that has come in and out of their lives.

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